Not necessarily. My best friend and her boyfriend have been together for three years and the only thing they have ever argued about is whether cheese or mushrooms are a more delicious pizza topping (literally)—-halt to the pessimistic ignorants who want to say that their lack of disagreements mean that they aren’t “really” in love; those two are dead crazy about each other. Also, when two people argue, it’s usually because a secret on either behalf was brought to the surface; not all the time, but quite often. Arguments are not a sturdy foundation for a healthy relationship and don’t validate the strength of one, either.

I’ve come to the conclusion that no matter how much pain a person brings into your life, it will go on. People will walk in and out of your life in such a short period of time, but one day, the pain you are feeling right this moment will not tickle a single hair on your body. Love will find you, once or twice, and both times will be mind-boggling beautiful. You will meet people who make you nibble-on-your-fingernails happy, but you will find that one human being that helps you find the “you” you’ve always tried to piece together. They will ignite wildfires in the darkest tunnels of your soul; electrify circuits in your tiresome, perplexed mind; wash away the debris of your tinted past; and mend the broken strings of your heart. They will bring you such radical joy that not even your body will be able to contain it; they will set you free from the brass cage you let your bitterness keep you trapped in; and they will soar to the highest altitudes to have your eyes take the place of the great green mountains they wake up to every dewy morning. You will meet so many different people from so many different places—maybe even the same places— and one day, you will meet that one person that goes above and beyond anything you’ve ever dreamed— that one heartbeat that will make all other heartbreaks worth it.

I miss the feelings I had when I could call a person my own, I miss the way I had something to look forward to every morning, I miss the way the blood-red sunset seemed that much more vivid and life was so much more alive just because that certain someone was a part of it. It’s not that I miss them as a person, but I miss the laughter and smiles that came so naturally in their presence. I miss the gentle words that danced off the tip of their tongue and the way I knew their every promise was sincere. I miss knowing that I had someone by my side to lift me up when I was struggling to carry the weight of the world upon my shoulders. I miss those cold 5 am mornings filled with their good morning, love’s and those warm summer evenings outlined in their sweet dreams, baby’s, because no matter what the hours in between brought me, the only thing that mattered was hearing that voice at the start and end of it all. I don’t miss you, that is the truth, but I do miss who you were, the way I could not escape the love we so deeply lost ourselves in, the way you made me feel and the way life was effortlessly wonderful. That, I will never be able to deny.

I may or not know who you are, where you are, what you look like, your past, your biggest dreams, your fears or what you’re feeling right this moment, but I hope you’re doing just fine. I hope you’re living life on the constant pursuit of happiness because the world deserves to feel the warmth of your smile. I hope whenever you feel like you’ve hit rock bottom, you remember that you are the reason I still believe in love— you’re the reason I still have hope that one day, I’ll forget the bitter taste of loneliness. When you’re close to giving up, remember that you are so much stronger than your obstacles make you feel. When you can’t seem to make sense of your life, go to the ocean and let the songs of the deep blue sea mend the fibers of your perplexed mind. I hope that wherever your heart wanders off to, whatever storms its been through and despite the amount of pain it has been bombarded with, you never stop anticipating the day when we finally collide. I can’t wait until that day when I give all that I’ve been saving for you, to you. I will love you when you need it most, I will love you when you don’t need it at all. I will love you when you’re at your lowest, I will love you when you’re up on cloud nine. I will love you from the moment I fall until the moment we fall from this earth. I will love you with everything I am, always and forever.